Re: Financial topics
Posted: Fri Aug 12, 2016 6:26 am
For those who think, from BD and understand the Calvary is not coming.
1 Timothy 5:8 (ASV) But if any provideth not for his own, and specially his own household, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.
For the true warriors in the battle we salute you. You are not alone.
from BD:
Just finished the caregiver role myself. Mom moved in with me in 1992 but remained very independent. That all changed as Alzheimer's stole more & more of her ability to care for herself. I continued to work full-time & look after her affairs but her anxiety & increasing confusion piled on the stress as her panicked calls to me at work grew more & more frequent & I was less and less able to defuse them easily. I was stressed to the max & also fearful that my job would tell me I was fired because of the amount of interruptions per day & the time I was spending dealing with mom while at work. Eventually, I was scared to death to leave in the mornings for fear of her wandering off while I was gone or her accidentally burning down my house or something. She refused all attempts to place her in elder daycare or have someone come sit with her while I worked. I begged the local Office of Aging for help...either forcing the issue on a "sitter" or placing her in a home against her will. I was told no one could help me because she was still capable of saying she wanted to stay with me. Mind you, she knew my name, but had no clue who I was....I was either a longtime neighbor or her co-worker...but she was deemed legally capable of making the decision where she lived. BUT, authorities were quick to tell me that, if I walked out that door each morning knowing that she wasn't capable of safely caring for herself that I could be legally responsible for neglect if something happened while I was gone. I was quite literally held as a legal prisoner in my own home because no agency would consent to help me. I eventually ended up quitting my job to care for her 24/7, selling my home & moving 1000 miles away where the cost of living was low enough that we could survive on what little she got in SS. I spent an entire year caring for her on my own & spending my savings to pick up the slack of her SS despite the fact that I have a sibling. He never lifted a finger for her, never helped me with her expenses, made a federal case out of it when I would get stressed to the point of needing 2 hrs to myself & always have an excuse why he couldn't sit with her for even that short amount of time and then, once we moved, continually put off coming out to visit her. He could never find the time in that year & she died without ever seeing him again. When she died, I was the one that made all of the arrangements & dealt with all of the issues. She wanted to be buried next to my dad back East. She died in March. My brother has not even told his work that she passed, has not taken funeral leave & has not come out to claim her ashes so that they can be buried where she wanted. After she passed, I started looking for work right away. Couldn't find anything & now I didn't even have her paltry SS to live on. No monetary help from my brother...but he was VERY quick to claim what little money she had left... & since I had QUIT my job to care for her (because I wasn't given a legal choice), I was ineligible for unemployment. Since I had NO income & was smart & moral enough to not be a single parent, I was ineligible for Medicaid. Blew through some more of my savings. Finally found a good paying job. The whole experience of being abandoned by the "system" has made me want to yell "Fuck the government" from the rooftop & being abandoned by my sibling to shoulder all of the responsibility & financial burden makes me want to tell him to 'piss off', too. If he never comes to visit (or claim mom's ashes for burial) I'd be OK with that. I've stopped asking because, frankly, I don't really care to see him anymore. In fact, I do believe, if by some miracle that he actually makes an effort to come out here, that I'll just be "too busy".
the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
From the darkness of Africa to the Frozen City's in the out skirts of Moscow to the recent pit in a palm grove.
Then again, in recent years economic data has been all but useless, and so the momentum continues.... http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2016-08-1 ... nomic-data
short - yes - long - yes
1 Timothy 5:8 (ASV) But if any provideth not for his own, and specially his own household, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever.
For the true warriors in the battle we salute you. You are not alone.
from BD:
Just finished the caregiver role myself. Mom moved in with me in 1992 but remained very independent. That all changed as Alzheimer's stole more & more of her ability to care for herself. I continued to work full-time & look after her affairs but her anxiety & increasing confusion piled on the stress as her panicked calls to me at work grew more & more frequent & I was less and less able to defuse them easily. I was stressed to the max & also fearful that my job would tell me I was fired because of the amount of interruptions per day & the time I was spending dealing with mom while at work. Eventually, I was scared to death to leave in the mornings for fear of her wandering off while I was gone or her accidentally burning down my house or something. She refused all attempts to place her in elder daycare or have someone come sit with her while I worked. I begged the local Office of Aging for help...either forcing the issue on a "sitter" or placing her in a home against her will. I was told no one could help me because she was still capable of saying she wanted to stay with me. Mind you, she knew my name, but had no clue who I was....I was either a longtime neighbor or her co-worker...but she was deemed legally capable of making the decision where she lived. BUT, authorities were quick to tell me that, if I walked out that door each morning knowing that she wasn't capable of safely caring for herself that I could be legally responsible for neglect if something happened while I was gone. I was quite literally held as a legal prisoner in my own home because no agency would consent to help me. I eventually ended up quitting my job to care for her 24/7, selling my home & moving 1000 miles away where the cost of living was low enough that we could survive on what little she got in SS. I spent an entire year caring for her on my own & spending my savings to pick up the slack of her SS despite the fact that I have a sibling. He never lifted a finger for her, never helped me with her expenses, made a federal case out of it when I would get stressed to the point of needing 2 hrs to myself & always have an excuse why he couldn't sit with her for even that short amount of time and then, once we moved, continually put off coming out to visit her. He could never find the time in that year & she died without ever seeing him again. When she died, I was the one that made all of the arrangements & dealt with all of the issues. She wanted to be buried next to my dad back East. She died in March. My brother has not even told his work that she passed, has not taken funeral leave & has not come out to claim her ashes so that they can be buried where she wanted. After she passed, I started looking for work right away. Couldn't find anything & now I didn't even have her paltry SS to live on. No monetary help from my brother...but he was VERY quick to claim what little money she had left... & since I had QUIT my job to care for her (because I wasn't given a legal choice), I was ineligible for unemployment. Since I had NO income & was smart & moral enough to not be a single parent, I was ineligible for Medicaid. Blew through some more of my savings. Finally found a good paying job. The whole experience of being abandoned by the "system" has made me want to yell "Fuck the government" from the rooftop & being abandoned by my sibling to shoulder all of the responsibility & financial burden makes me want to tell him to 'piss off', too. If he never comes to visit (or claim mom's ashes for burial) I'd be OK with that. I've stopped asking because, frankly, I don't really care to see him anymore. In fact, I do believe, if by some miracle that he actually makes an effort to come out here, that I'll just be "too busy".
the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
From the darkness of Africa to the Frozen City's in the out skirts of Moscow to the recent pit in a palm grove.
Then again, in recent years economic data has been all but useless, and so the momentum continues.... http://www.zerohedge.com/news/2016-08-1 ... nomic-data
short - yes - long - yes